In middle school, I was told that I wasn’t smart at a certain subject simply because I have a twin. Teachers would start turning us against one another by announcing to the class, “let’s see which one of them is the smarter twin.” When we would get one point higher/lower than the other, one of us was considered as the “dumb twin” or the “smart twin.” It lowered my self-esteem, and I actually believed that I was dumb based on my grades.
In high school, I was told that since I was good at math, why not choose a career path that involved math. But, I was also good at writing, yet everyone seems to dismissed it.
By the time I entered college, I was told that if I didn’t want to be a doctor/nurse, I should go into accounting. I tried it out, and I was depressed.
I eventually challenged everyone (family members) who told me what I should be doing since I was young. Instead, I chose a career path that I love. I changed majors when I was only a year away from graduating with a degree in accounting. It took a while to explain to my parents what a communication major does, but they grew to accept my achievements, and are happy to see that I’m happy.
But after all that, there will still be people in the world who are ignorant.
I was told once (by a ‘friend’) that the job that I got after graduating wasn’t a real job just because I wasn’t making 65k+ a year. But I get a paycheck, a recent high raise, benefits, paid vacations, & sick time. I’m still learning, and building up my skills and experiences. I was offered a few new career paths, but if it’s not right for me, why would I choose to be sad/miserable?
I was told that I took the easy route instead of trying to get into a large corporation. I did try, did I make it past the first phone interview, no. It’s very difficult finding a job nowadays. Many corporation requires a lot of experiences and skills, and even if I’m working in a not so well-known medium size company, I’m thankful that I have a job and an opportunity to grow.
I was told by someone (Asian) that I wasn’t American enough because I wore Asian clothing brands (Uniqlo, Liz Lisa). What does my clothes have to do with being American? I mostly wear Asian clothing brands because their sizes, in terms of length, is great for petites under 5 feet. I can’t change my appearance, I was born with Asian features. I can go out wearing J.Crew or Banana Republic, and still look Asian.
I was told, again, that I wasn’t American enough because my playlist is mixed with foreign music. If I love listening to foreign music, I’ll listen to it. People from all over the world listen to American artists, why can’t I listen to theirs?
I was told that I wasn’t independent just because I still like to visit my parents often after graduating. Why wouldn’t I? My parents supported me financially throughout my college career. Even though they weren’t happy at first with the career path I have chosen, they eventually came to understand that being a COM major made me happy. I find it immature when someone brags about being independent.
I was told that they’re just trying to help, but in actuality they’re judging everything that I was doing, and are narrowed-minded. They comparing me to what they have done, or to what others have accomplished.
I was told that I’ve changed. Yes, I did. I’ve learned to not care about what other people think of me. If I have a goal, I will put my mind to it. If I’m happy where I am at right now, why should I stressed so much about other people’s words.
Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive.
– Leah LaBelle
Surround yourself with people who are humble, friends who will support you and makes you laugh, & family who will always be there for you. Stay humble, be kind, and do what makes you happy.
– Stories by Cindy
sharing some of my life moments